I've been reading some great books lately and one of them has been
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.I really enjoyed reading this book and primarily its about how to make sure your spouse knows how much you love him/her.And you should know what he/she desire and how you need to speak your spouse's love language so that your spouse knows and can see your love.Everyone talks about how the "in love" experience fades after you're married.I don't think that has to be the case.I believe this book can help us keep that "in love" experience much longer.I've listed The Five Love Languages below.The book goes into much greater detail on each language.
1.Words of Affirmation -- Your love tank is full when your spouse is showing appreciation to you,thanking you for the things you do,sharing words of encouragement,using words that build up(Thank you,I'm so proud of you,You look nice in that suit).
2.Quality Time -- You desire spending time with your spouse,probably not watching TV or multitasking but true quality time where you've conversation with one another and nothing is distracting you,giving your undivided attention.
3.Receiving Gifts -- You like receiving gifts from your spouse.These gifts don't always have to be expensive,they can be your favorite candy bar,a simple card which he/she took time to pick out specifically for you.
4.Acts of Service -- Your love tank is full when your spouse shows an act of service just to show his/her care and concern towards you.
5.Physical Touch -- This is,in fact,self-explanatory-you desire to be touched by your spouse.This could be holding hands,reaching out to you as he/she passes by,or randomly kissing your cheek and the like.
I suggest this book to anyone in a serious relationship,engaged or married.It really can bring out some things that you may not otherwise know about your spouse and what makes him tick.You could possibly be speaking your language but not the language of your spouse. Things you may be doing, could be meaningless to your spouse. If they desire Acts of Service and all you are doing is giving them gifts to show your love, you are not speaking the correct love language. Although, giving gifts may be your love language, it's unlikely that that is also your spouse's love language. Read the book and take the test to find your love language, you may be surprised but it could help or strengthen your relationship.